In my family, there is not much of the culture conflict because the Western culture don’t have much effects on my family. In many ways my family stays traditional, the role of the elder and young is very important in my family and we are being expected to give respect to those older ones whenever and wherever we go. This is sometimes hard, as to those people that we are close with; it is hard to have the same amount of respect to them as the strangers.
The time when I really feel the cultural conflict within my family is when the birthdays of us children come up. As any other kid, we all get excited for our birthdays but in my family, we stop celebrating birthdays after the kid pass 4th grade. Therefore, we celebrate it with our friends and pay for the cakes ourselves if we want to celebrate this day. Our parent stop taking part of it, not celebrating it with us nor giving gifts. In fact, I didn’t even get a “Happy Birthday” from my parents for my 15th birthday. It is said in the Chinese old tradition that the day when you are born is the day when your mother has a big disaster and should not be celebrate. It is a day when you should be thanking your mother for handling all the pain, not a day to celebrate that you came to this earth.
I had already give up that my parents would give me ANYTHING for my birthdays or for Christmas but it really bothers me when they forget my birthday and did not even say a happy birthday. This is how I remember the cultural conflict in my family
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